Moms’ liaison doesn’t spell friendship’s end

Advertisement

Advertise with us

DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I was lying awake the other night and heard my mother yapping away to someone while she drank her nightly margaritas. She was talking in a flirty, sexy way — like she was having a phone date.

Read this article for free:


or

Already have an account? Log in here »

To continue reading, please subscribe:

Subscribe and receive a limited-edition Free Press branded hat or tote.

Digital Subscription

One year of digital access for only $205*

  • Enjoy unlimited reading on winnipegfreepress.com
  • Read the E-Edition, our digital replica newspaper
  • Access News Break, our award-winning app
  • Play interactive puzzles

*First annual payment billed as $205.00 + GST for one year. This annual subscription will automatically renew at $233.00 + GST every 52 weeks (10% off the regular annual price of $259.35). Offer available to new and qualified returning subscribers only. Cancel any time.

To continue reading, please subscribe:

Add Free Press access to your Brandon Sun subscription for only an additional

$1 for the first 4 weeks*

  • Enjoy unlimited reading on winnipegfreepress.com
  • Read the E-Edition, our digital replica newspaper
  • Access News Break, our award-winning app
  • Play interactive puzzles
Start now

*Your next Brandon Sun subscription payment will increase by $1.00 and you will be charged $17.95 plus GST for four weeks. After four weeks, your payment will increase to $24.95 plus GST every four weeks.

Opinion

Hey there, time traveller!
This article was published 26/06/2025 (418 days ago), so information in it may no longer be current.

DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I was lying awake the other night and heard my mother yapping away to someone while she drank her nightly margaritas. She was talking in a flirty, sexy way — like she was having a phone date.

I thought she was talking with a guy, so being the snoopy daughter I am, I opened my door a crack to hear better. My mother turns out to be having a thing with a woman.

Big deal, you say? Yes, it is. It is the lesbian mother of my best friend — up until recently. Now I know why she’s been snubbing me. She’s obviously in-the-know and horrified, like I am now.

I don’t know what to do. Why should I have to lose my best friend? If our mothers are sexually involved, then I feel sick about it too and I understand why my closest friend is avoiding me.

How should I approach this friend I seem to have lost? I really miss her friendship. She and I are both straight, I think. Help us.

— Losing Friend Over Mothers, North Kildonan

Dear Losing Friend: Both your mothers may have had the mistaken idea that you two wouldn’t be upset about their liaison because you and your friend are already so close. Wrong.

Look, you didn’t bargain for your moms to be romantic partners, but don’t panic. It will take some working through, possibly with a psychologist, but you likely won’t have to lose your buddy. You may have to give it some time, though, as there are several emotional issues involved.

So, in a few weeks, shore up your courage and call your friend. If she’s not willing to talk yet, say to her, “I’ll call you again in a month, or feel free to call me sooner.” By then, there will be other regular news from your circle of friends to share, as well as this topic playing out, and these issues could start the conversation rolling again.

Meanwhile, ask your mom to find you a counsellor to talk things through with. You two may need a “referee” at first, but you already have many years of love on your side.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I gained enough pregnancy weight for twins but I only had one baby. I immediately started a nutritious weight-loss program and have lost five pounds already.

My husband says he doesn’t need to work out or diet — although he’s 40 pounds overweight and looks like he could have been carrying twins himself. I told him that last night.

How can I get him motivated? He’s in worse shape than I am, and it’s just not sexually appealing.

— Pregnant-Looking Hubby, West End

Dear Pregnant-Looking Hubby: For real motivation, a program has to be appealing, not punishment.

Plus, the person’s partner needs to be encouraging, not mean.

So first off, you owe your man an apology. Then, it’s time to get a set of weights for home use.

Add in a step counter and a nearby high school running track or park to take advantage of with different friends.

Or, if either of you prefers to train alone, earphones and a curated playlist of all-time favourite tunes will make it more fun.

You two could make twin programs work and feel happy and attractive again as long as you join forces and cheer each other on this summer.

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts c/o the Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave., Winnipeg, MB, R2X 3B6.

Maureen Scurfield

Maureen Scurfield
Advice columnist

Maureen Scurfield writes the Miss Lonelyhearts advice column.

Our newsroom depends on a growing audience of readers to power our journalism. If you are not a paid reader, please consider becoming a subscriber.

Our newsroom depends on its audience of readers to power our journalism. Thank you for your support.

Report Error Submit a Tip

More Stories

Protester dies in clashes after disputed Belarus vote

Yuras Karmanau, The Associated Press 7 minute read Preview

Protester dies in clashes after disputed Belarus vote

Yuras Karmanau, The Associated Press 7 minute read Tuesday, Aug. 11, 2020

MINSK, Belarus - A protester died amid clashes between police and thousands of people gathered for a second straight night Monday in Belarus after official results from weekend elections — dismissed by the opposition as a sham — gave an overwhelming victory to authoritarian President Alexander Lukashenko.

Interior Ministry spokesman Alexander Lastovsky said the victim was part of a crowd of people protesting results of Sunday’s presidential vote. The protester intended to throw an explosive device, but it blew up in his hand and killed him, Lastovsky said.

The death came amid demonstrations in at least four areas of Minsk that met with a harsh response from police who tried to disperse protesters with flash-bang grenades and rubber bullets. Near the Pushkinskaya subway station, some 3,000 protesters tried to build barricades.

Lukashenko's hardline rule began in 1994 and his victory would extend it until 2025. He derided the opposition as “sheep” manipulated by foreign masters.

Read
Tuesday, Aug. 11, 2020

Winnipeggers deserve an explanation for waste of taxpayer dollars: expert

Ryan Thorpe 12 minute read Preview

Winnipeggers deserve an explanation for waste of taxpayer dollars: expert

Ryan Thorpe 12 minute read Tuesday, Feb. 22, 2022

The anti-corruption expert grew increasingly concerned with each passing example of costly and confusing construction projects ordered by Winnipeg’s public works department — year after year, intersection after intersection.

Kevin Gillese stopped the presentation halfway through — he’d seen enough.

“The materials you’ve shown me are extremely disturbing. They suggest a pattern of incompetence or corruption, or perhaps both… The patterns shown are over a long period of time and there’s no obvious rhyme or reason to what’s being done,” Gillese said.

“The extent and the magnitude is so great that it staggers the imagination. It suggests something very, very wrong in the way intersection engineering is being done in the City of Winnipeg.”

Read
Tuesday, Feb. 22, 2022

‘It’s ridiculous’: Leisure Guide website belly flops on swim lesson day

Kevin Rollason 5 minute read Preview

‘It’s ridiculous’: Leisure Guide website belly flops on swim lesson day

Kevin Rollason 5 minute read Tuesday, Aug. 30, 2022

Karly Mooney got up early Tuesday to dive in front of her computer, hoping to snag a swimming lesson spot for her son.

Read
Tuesday, Aug. 30, 2022

Design engineer repeatedly told city officials police behind HQ’s rising costs, delays

Ryan Thorpe 9 minute read Preview

Design engineer repeatedly told city officials police behind HQ’s rising costs, delays

Ryan Thorpe 9 minute read Friday, Jun. 10, 2022

A key player in the construction of Winnipeg’s downtown police headquarters repeatedly raised concerns with senior city administration about design changes pushed by the police service causing significant cost overruns and schedule delays.

Internal project correspondence newly obtained by the Free Press reveals the degree of frustration that was mounting for Peter Chang and the design firm Adjeleian Allen Rubeli Ltd., on the construction project.

On at least two occasions, Chang threatened to walk away from the job, complaining his firm had been mistreated by the city and police service. On another occasion, he accused the city of instructing him to censor a progress report critical of the Winnipeg Police Service.

The correspondence sheds new light on steps taken by city hall to limit the exposure of the police service in the controversial capital project.

Read
Friday, Jun. 10, 2022

Free Press Sales Center

1 minute read Thursday, Aug. 13, 2026

Advertise With Usto have your brand reach an engaged audience on the most trusted news source in Manitoba. Create Your Campaign

44% of Winnipeg adults read Free Press print and digital products weekly. This is the best per capita readership of any English daily newspaper in a major Canadian city.

Base: 802,000 Winnipeg Adults, Source: Vividata SCC

Study of the Canadian Consumer Spring 2026

Manitoba data not yet adequate to release virus projections, Roussin says

Carol Sanders 5 minute read Preview

Manitoba data not yet adequate to release virus projections, Roussin says

Carol Sanders 5 minute read Tuesday, Apr. 21, 2020

Even as Manitoba's coronavirus infection rate continues to improve, the province is steadfast in refusing to release its long-term projections of the pandemic's impact.

It's a decision reiterated at Tuesday's health briefing that's in stark contrast to Ontario, which shared its latest projections Monday — a move of transparency it said was necessary for the public to fully understand the challenges facing the government.

“Providing this information is key to ensuring continued transparency with the public about the challenges that Ontario faces in dealing with COVID-19 and where there has been progress in flattening the curve,” the COVID-19: Modelling and Potential Scenarios report released Monday said. The 18-page report showed Ontarians that public-health interventions resulted in the virus peaking now rather than in May, and included such information as the total number of cases for the span of the outbreak is now likely to be less than 20,000, compared to the 80,000 projected earlier.

In Manitoba, that kind of modelling with potential scenarios has not been made public. For the last two weeks, government officials and chief provincial health officer Dr. Brent Roussin have indicated such projections would be made public in the coming days. Modelling and potential scenarios have been presented to the province but more data is needed before projections will be released to the public, said Roussin.

Read
Tuesday, Apr. 21, 2020