Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: My girlfriend and I are in love, living together — a deeply committed couple who’d like to go travelling. She wants to quickly get married before we do that, “because of less trouble crossing borders.” I think that’s NOT a very romantic reason for getting married!

Now she’s upset and questioning why she’s even “just living” with me! I don’t know what to say. I just don’t want to get married unromantically, for travel’s sake. It’s a feeling deep in my gut. What do you think? — Romantic Canadian Guy, Winnipeg

Dear Romantic Canuck: There are cracks growing in your relationship right now as expressed by your girlfriend, who’s questioning why you’re “just living together.”

Could you do some Canadian exploration together for now, and test out how you travel longer-term as a couple — and then decide on marriage, before you consider leaving the safety of this modern country?

DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I received an angry, old-fashioned breakup letter from my boyfriend today with “What I should have sent you” printed on the envelope. It was a nasty followup to a kinder text message he sent me the day before with some of his regrets about the two of us and about himself.

This one listed all my faults — social, political, personal and sexual. I guess he had taken time to really dig around in his strange little mind. He’s definitely not short on cutting remarks.

I don’t know which of the two makes me madder. Should I respond to either?

— Shaking My Head, downtown Winnipeg

DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I have a beautiful lingerie collection, and I noticed recently that different items were disappearing from my dresser drawers and then showing back up again a day or two later. At first, I suspected my husband had a fetish for the lingerie himself, but it turns out to be something else.

My 18-year-old daughter has a slightly older boyfriend with his own place, and I know they’re having sex these days. When I spotted a bit of my new two-piece, see-through red “baby-doll” pyjamas sticking out of her purse, I grabbed them — and the fight was on!

I do not like the idea of sharing my intimate garb with my daughter, so I told her sternly to keep her hands off my lingerie collection. I was furious — and she was having a hard time not laughing! I’m at a loss as to how to react to this behaviour.

— Baffled Mom, St. Norbert

DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: My mom who raised me is not my biological mother. My bio-mother is from my hometown in southern Manitoba. She was a young teenager who got pregnant but didn’t want a baby.

I’ve always known I was adopted and I’m so glad to have been raised by my adoptive parents who soon moved north with me because of my adoptive father’s work. Mom was unable to bear children, but she definitely married a great man!

My bio-mother never came looking for me — didn’t even send a letter or card. However, I do know her identity as I accessed my records through the provincial adoption office.

Now I’m a married guy myself, and to a wonderful woman who’s very sentimental. For some strange reason this year, she suddenly insists she wants to meet my biological mother “no matter what she’s like.”