Have a Plan B in case three becomes a crowd

Opinion

DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: We are a somewhat new romantic lesbian trio and go everywhere together now. We love and trust each other. We are all serious artists, and love sketching birds and wildlife.

I happen to know of this particular birders’ paradise — a little beach — and my two girlfriends want me to take them there for an overnight in a tent. That would be two days of bird sketches and photo shoots. And it could be very romantic.

So far, we have just planned on going in one car, mine, since going in two cars would be stupid and more expensive for gas, but here’s the problem: I have this inkling I might need to go home if it gets difficult or complicated between us three. They seem tighter lately.

What if I can’t stand it and they want to continue to stay there together? What do you think?

—Feeling Nervous, West Kildonan

Dear Nervous: Your threesome relationship is too new to hazard a romantic trip where one of you is already feeling nervous and may want to leave early.

Despite the cost, it would likely be a good idea to take two vehicles. You don’t have to say it’s because you’re worried you may feel like leaving early — just chalk it up to having more space for supplies or as backup if something goes wrong with your vehicle.

And if you’re worried you won’t feel like driving all the way back after a day in the sun and sand, you could consider booking an Airbnb or a room at a motel in the area, just in case.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I punched my brother in the face over some cheating he did recently with an old girlfriend and then he called me some names. We then piled on each other and he connected with his fist. I lost a tooth.

Our wives say they’re disgusted with us for fighting like maniacs at our age. They have set up counselling for us with some shrink.

The only thing my brother and I agree on for sure now is this: we aren’t going to go to see that shrink. We don’t need it coming out that one of us (not me) cheated recently. So what now?

I think the wives don’t believe the fake reason for the fight we gave them and want the counsellor to dig it out. That will really be trouble.

— Help Needed Fast, central Manitoba

Dear Help Needed: What will happen if you get this all out in the open? Will your cheating brother lose his marriage?

Why was this cheating happening in the first place? Were there serious issues with your brother’s marriage or was it just for a laugh and the fun of it?

None of these reasons would say much for your brother’s maturity or the current strength of his marriage.

Then there’s the guy who heard the confession and has become an accomplice. That would be you.

It really is probably best if you two work this out with a professional — who would be required to maintain your privacy — so don’t opt out of that counselling.

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts c/o the Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave., Winnipeg, MB, R2X 3B6.

Maureen Scurfield
Advice columnist

Maureen Scurfield writes the Miss Lonelyhearts advice column.

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