‘Rock star’ move hits sour, demeaning note

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DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: My boyfriend — who’s now in a rock band and thinks he’s so hot— told me he had to take my van for two nights, because they had an out-of-town weekend gig.

It sounded like another of his lies. So, on a hunch last Saturday night, I took a cab past a certain woman’s house. My van was sitting right there!

I felt deeply hurt, and extremely angry. I quickly used my set of keys to get into the van. Then I drove it home to quickly throw all his clothes and music crap into garbage bags.

At 3 a.m. I drove back and left the bags on that woman’s doorstep, with a sign saying, “We are finished.”

Today, the idiot came racing over in a taxi, begging me to let him “come back home.” It seems the other woman won’t take him in for longer than the weekend — no doubt because his services were no longer needed.

I said, “Just go away and stay away!” The thing is I don’t know where he’s going to stay now. Why do I even care? I hate living alone, and I might turn into a big baby and give in. How can I hold my ground this time?

— Tired of Being Used, St. Vital

Dear Tired: This ‘rock star’ can probably lean on one of his buddies or his folks to take him in off the streets. It’s simply not your worry — especially when he’s cheating on you.

It could actually be an opportunity for you. You’ll have extra room now he’s gone, so consider getting a housemate. It can be fun living with people around your age, and you won’t be so lonely that you’ll take this user back again.

If you advertise at colleges and universities, it won’t take long to find new and interesting people.

Granted, some housemates might be annoying at times, but they won’t be kicking you in the heart and causing you personal grief.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I found my first winter here in Manitoba was scary, to say the least. The leaves are almost down, and here it comes again! I can’t take the freezing cold in this province past January without a holiday to get me out of here and back into milder temperatures.

My new wife just told me she wants us to go skiing in the mountains, out west in Canada, for a holiday this year after Christmas. I just think about that and start shivering. “You’ll learn to love it!” she says.

Not likely. I’m a European man from a country where it gets cold enough to ski, but not a deep freeze. I told her to go without me if she wants to go to skiing in Canada, and she is upset now.

A lot of her relatives live out west, so I told her to visit them. She was still not happy! This could end up being a very serious fight in our relationship. Please help us, before we get to that. We do love each other very much.

— Can’t Stand Extreme Cold, downtown Winnipeg

Dear Can’t Stand Extreme Cold: You’re a newly married couple, but this fight could certainly cool things off between you. Here’s a middle-ground solution for right now: You two could perhaps fly to see your friends and family in Europe and do a little skiing there, where it’s cold enough in the mountains, but not scary cold.

The freedom to go on trips like this could change if you have kids in the future, but for now, consider it an alternative to you both feeling miserable this winter.

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts c/o the Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave., Winnipeg, MB, R2X 3B6.

Maureen Scurfield
Advice columnist

Maureen Scurfield writes the Miss Lonelyhearts advice column.

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