Best to pull up stakes, move on from camping fanatic

Advertisement

Advertise with us

DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I hate camping with my boyfriend, and he wants to book some special “lots” in the bush, before they’re all gone. When I was a kid, my family went camping a lot, and my parents fought the whole time! Last summer, my guy and I went camping six times, and and ended up fighting the entire weekend on five out of the six occasions, but who’s counting.

Read this article for free:


or

Already have an account? Log in here »

To continue reading, please subscribe:

Subscribe and receive a limited-edition Free Press branded hat or tote.

Digital Subscription

One year of digital access for only $205*

  • Enjoy unlimited reading on winnipegfreepress.com
  • Read the E-Edition, our digital replica newspaper
  • Access News Break, our award-winning app
  • Play interactive puzzles

*First annual payment billed as $205.00 + GST for one year. This annual subscription will automatically renew at $233.00 + GST every 52 weeks (10% off the regular annual price of $259.35). Offer available to new and qualified returning subscribers only. Cancel any time.

To continue reading, please subscribe:

Add Free Press access to your Brandon Sun subscription for only an additional

$1 for the first 4 weeks*

  • Enjoy unlimited reading on winnipegfreepress.com
  • Read the E-Edition, our digital replica newspaper
  • Access News Break, our award-winning app
  • Play interactive puzzles
Start now

*Your next Brandon Sun subscription payment will increase by $1.00 and you will be charged $17.95 plus GST for four weeks. After four weeks, your payment will increase to $24.95 plus GST every four weeks.

Opinion

Hey there, time traveller!
This article was published 19/04/2023 (1224 days ago), so information in it may no longer be current.

DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I hate camping with my boyfriend, and he wants to book some special “lots” in the bush, before they’re all gone. When I was a kid, my family went camping a lot, and my parents fought the whole time! Last summer, my guy and I went camping six times, and and ended up fighting the entire weekend on five out of the six occasions, but who’s counting.

I know camping means a lot to my boyfriend, but I don’t want to fight with him in the heat every weekend, and if he went with friends, I’d be happy just to stay home. I know he’d be roaring mad about it though.

How can I let him down gently? I suspect he’s not “the one,” as he wants to keep camping, for life.

— Not a Happy Camper, Bridgwater

Dear Not Happy: You’ve oddly been copying the behaviour you hated in your mother and father’s camping experiences — fighting all the time in the sweltering heat. It seems these hot summer experiences served as a stage for your parents to loudly express a lot of pent-up anger and frustration with each other.

Good news! I’d estimate about half the male population really doesn’t care for camping, as it’s just too much work. It’s time to say goodbye to “Camping Guy” and get out of your pattern. Actively look for a guy who hates camping. Ask any prospective date, right up front: “How do you feel about camping?” If he says, “I hate it!” then go on that date and see how things work out.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I want to start dating a girl like me. I’m somewhat secretly into females and I’ve dated a little bit with friends of my brothers, and I liked them alright, but they didn’t turn me on at all. All my life, I’ve secretly preferred female friends to guys.

Now I’m 17, and ready to come out. But who do I tell, and when? I know this one girl who’s “out” and her family and friends know, and are OK with it. I know she likes me, because she gives me secret smiles and has winked at me twice.

If I start seeing her specially, should it be in secret? I don’t think she’d like to do that, because her family and friends accept her without secrecy. Please help.

— Coming Out Soon, Winnipeg

Dear Coming Out Soon: You may be coming out in a hurry if you start by seeing a girl who’s accustomed to being out. It’d be smart to pave the way by talking openly with the people you love and are closest to, like one parent or both, and a close brother as well. They may have already guessed you’re more interested in girls than guys. Moms particularly, are always observing their kids and know a lot more about them than the kids think.

You might also talk to a school counsellor about this. The more support you have in place, the easier it will be for you to live your life, particularly the romantic relationship part, the way you really want.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I’ve lost a lot of weight and look pretty different to my old self — a lot healthier — but I’m afraid to buy new clothes out of fear that I’ll put all the weight back on. I know that sounds stupid, but I did that once before. What is your advice for a guy who has lost weight, but has not automatically gained in confidence?

— To Buy Clothes or Not, Westwood

Dear To Buy or Not: If you buy three or four new outfits you really like, it’ll help you feel more confident, and that will help you avoid overeating. On the other hand, if you’re wearing baggy clothes, just begging to be filled up, you’ll be more tempted to eat the foods that will cause that.

Now that the weather has improved and the wet ground is drying, consider corralling a friend (or more) into a daily running group that will burn off calories, and help you keep the weight off permanently.

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts c/o the Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave., Winnipeg, MB, R2X 3B6.

Maureen Scurfield

Maureen Scurfield
Advice columnist

Maureen Scurfield writes the Miss Lonelyhearts advice column.

Our newsroom depends on a growing audience of readers to power our journalism. If you are not a paid reader, please consider becoming a subscriber.

Our newsroom depends on its audience of readers to power our journalism. Thank you for your support.

Report Error Submit a Tip

More Stories

Bottled-water sales boom, restaurants close as city faces 2nd day of boil-water advisory

By Adam Wazny, Nick Martin and Jason Bell 8 minute read Preview

Bottled-water sales boom, restaurants close as city faces 2nd day of boil-water advisory

By Adam Wazny, Nick Martin and Jason Bell 8 minute read Wednesday, Jan. 28, 2015

Call it a tidal wave of water sales. The precautionary boil-water advisory in Winnipeg since Tuesday evening has meant strong sales for the bottled-water industry in this town.

Take the Food Fare on Portage Avenue, for example. Owner Husni Zeid saw his water inventory disappear in 15 minutes Tuesday night, as people scrambled to get a hold of bottled water. This morning, he picked up some more and started selling cases of bottled water right on the sidewalk in front of the store.

“We sold 75 cases in an hour and a half,” he said. “Cases of 24 bottles. I have 300 (cases) coming right now, 200 12-packs and 125 cases of four-litre jugs.”

That shipment arrived at noon and as staff rushed to get the product on the shelves, potential customers were hanging around, waiting with money in hand for the water bottle-based impromptu sidewalk sale.

Read
Wednesday, Jan. 28, 2015

Thespian has lofty goals for province’s theatre scene

Conrad Sweatman 6 minute read Preview

Thespian has lofty goals for province’s theatre scene

Conrad Sweatman 6 minute read 2:00 AM CDT

Daniela Smith-Fernandez has had an eventful summer.

Her debut play, the verbose sex comedy Jean-François: plus que parfait premièred at the Winnipeg Fringe Theatre Festival in July (earning 4/12 stars in the Free Press).

And just a week before, in early July, Smith-Fernandez joined the Manitoba Association of Playwrights as its new company manager.

“I don’t want inclusion to be tokenism anymore. I want people to be including Manitoba plays because they’re amazing, not because they feel like they should support local,” says the 41-year-old trilingual Chilean-Canadian artist. “(At MAP) I feel like I get to be myself in a way that definitely didn’t happen when I was working in insurance.”

Read
2:00 AM CDT

Boil-water advisory lifted in Winnipeg

Bartley Kives 2 minute read Preview

Boil-water advisory lifted in Winnipeg

Bartley Kives 2 minute read Thursday, Jan. 29, 2015

Go ahead and drink the tap water, Winnipeg.

The two-day pre‎cautionary boil-water order is over, Mayor Brian Bowman declared, first on Twitter and YouTube.

"I'm pleased to let you know that the temporary boil-water advisory for the City of Winnipeg has been lifted," Bowman said in a YouTube video posted to the City of Winnipeg's channel Thursday afternoon.

"The province has advised us that for the second day in a row, the water has tested just fine."

Read
Thursday, Jan. 29, 2015

Silver linings aplenty for Langelaar after missing Olympic berth

Joshua Frey-Sam 6 minute read Preview

Silver linings aplenty for Langelaar after missing Olympic berth

Joshua Frey-Sam 6 minute read Friday, Jan. 16, 2026

Tyson Langelaar was a fan of James Bond movies growing up. The spy series a staple for him on plane rides.

This 007, however, did not capture the Winnipeg-born speed skaters’ heart — it broke it.

One of the most agonizing results of Langelaar’s career came recently at the Canadian Olympic speed skating trials in Quebec City, where he saw his dream of representing Canada at next month’s Olympic Games in Italy instantly melt away.

Langelaar, who needed a top-two finish in the men’s 1,500-metre event, finished in third with a time of 1:46:883. The difference between him and second-place Daniel Hall was a fraction of a skate blade or, more accurately, seven hundredths of a second.

Read
Friday, Jan. 16, 2026

Manitoba labour leader quits, cites ‘degrading, disgusting’ remarks from union men

Jessica Botelho-Urbanski 6 minute read Preview

Manitoba labour leader quits, cites ‘degrading, disgusting’ remarks from union men

Jessica Botelho-Urbanski 6 minute read Wednesday, Mar. 20, 2019

A Manitoba labour leader has quit her job, shocking other local union members with descriptions of misogynist and humiliating remarks she allegedly endured from union brothers, as well as a sexual assault.

Postal worker Basia Sokal, now the former president of the Winnipeg Labour Council (WLC), resigned at a board meeting Tuesday evening in front of a crowd of about 60 people. A 15-minute audio recording of her resignation speech was uploaded online by Rank & File Radio — Prairie Edition.

In her remarks, Sokal detailed some of the things allegedly said to her during her tenure as council president, a role she began in January 2017.

 

Read
Wednesday, Mar. 20, 2019

MGEU sounds alarm over proposed bargaining unit contraction

Larry Kusch 3 minute read Preview

MGEU sounds alarm over proposed bargaining unit contraction

Larry Kusch 3 minute read Thursday, Jan. 24, 2019

A union representing Manitoba health-care workers says it's worried home care workers and health-care aides may be forced to take on unfamiliar roles as a result of a decision this week by the province.

The Manitoba Government and General Employees' Union, which represents 17,500 health workers, said Thursday it has grave concerns about a new regulation that would place home care workers and health-care aides in hospitals and personal care homes in the same bargaining unit.

MGEU president Michelle Gawronsky said she's been told government wants the flexibility to use the workers and aides interchangeably. She said this news is upsetting both groups, some of whom have told her they'd rather quit than be forced to take on a new role.

"A good health-care system needs to support (its) health-care workforce, not stress them out and turn their lives upside down," Gawronsky said at a news conference. "Only a high-priced consultant who isn't working on the front lines would try to improve quality of care by shuffling health workers around the system."

Read
Thursday, Jan. 24, 2019