Elevate things between you by breaking ice

Advertisement

Advertise with us

DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I work in a high rise downtown and every day I come to work at the same time. I often ride the elevator up with this new guy working a few floors under me. I always feel a little disappointed when he has to get off, and I continue up into the sky.

Read this article for free:


or

Already have an account? Log in here »

To continue reading, please subscribe:

Subscribe and receive a limited-edition Free Press branded hat or tote.

Digital Subscription

One year of digital access for only $205*

  • Enjoy unlimited reading on winnipegfreepress.com
  • Read the E-Edition, our digital replica newspaper
  • Access News Break, our award-winning app
  • Play interactive puzzles

*First annual payment billed as $205.00 + GST for one year. This annual subscription will automatically renew at $233.00 + GST every 52 weeks (10% off the regular annual price of $259.35). Offer available to new and qualified returning subscribers only. Cancel any time.

To continue reading, please subscribe:

Add Free Press access to your Brandon Sun subscription for only an additional

$1 for the first 4 weeks*

  • Enjoy unlimited reading on winnipegfreepress.com
  • Read the E-Edition, our digital replica newspaper
  • Access News Break, our award-winning app
  • Play interactive puzzles
Start now

*Your next Brandon Sun subscription payment will increase by $1.00 and you will be charged $17.95 plus GST for four weeks. After four weeks, your payment will increase to $24.95 plus GST every four weeks.

DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I work in a high rise downtown and every day I come to work at the same time. I often ride the elevator up with this new guy working a few floors under me. I always feel a little disappointed when he has to get off, and I continue up into the sky.

I’ve worked my way up to speaking pleasantries about the weather, and he responds with cute remarks about the clouds. The good news? He’s not wearing a ring. I also found out his first name from hearing other people say hello to him. Now what?

— Feeling Frustrated! Downtown

Dear Frustrated: Next time you’re on the elevator ride together, say “Hi! My name is such-and-such and I work at such-and-such. Where do you work up here in the clouds?” That should make him smile and break the ice. Then you could consider asking if he might like to join you for a coffee on a work break, if you can co-ordinate it.

He may also have been trying to think of some way to make conversation with you on the long rides up. Good luck!

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: My wife and I had another argument — the worst of many — and she threw a drink at me. She loves her cocktails. It didn’t hurt because she totally missed me with the glass, but it was rude. I was so angry! Then she took off fast in her car, to see her sister.

It was getting dark, so I went out for a cruise in my own vehicle. I walked into the first bar I saw, and had a bunch of drinks. It struck me between the eyes that I just don’t love my wife anymore.

I know people should try their hardest to keep their marriages together, but what’s the point? We have no children, the attraction is gone, and frankly my wife is making me feel unloved and kind of sick to my stomach.

I just want to call it quits, but it’s against my religion. I know in my heart I really don’t want the suggested counselling to patch things up that my church would insist on. What do you think?

— Finished For Me, North Kildonan

Dear Finished: It’s time to stand up for yourself. You don’t want to be with this woman anymore, and she’s becoming violent. There are no children involved and there’s no love left in your marriage.

As for counselling — there doesn’t seem to be any point. Your wife has moved on from your marriage, you have no respect for her now and she’s becoming scary. You’re lucky there are no kids to keep you tied to each other. Time to see a good lawyer!

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I’m a teacher who’s going back to school very soon. I love teaching, and it is forever saving my sanity. I know how to handle 20-something kids in a classroom, and I love it. But I don’t love my own personal life, and I don’t know how to attract the right kind of man for me.

There are a number of men in the teaching profession here who are attractive (even one in my big school), but it’s not advisable to hunt for love under your work roof!

— Lonely Teacher, Manitoba

Dear Lonely Teacher: You’re right about not hunting for love at work, but you can still get involved in educational causes that would bring you in contact with teachers in other schools.

Identify what changes or improvements you’d like to be a part of in the education system, and get involved outside your own school. If you end up dating someone through this, it doesn’t matter so much if the relationship doesn’t work out, because you don’t face each other every day at work.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: How long should you wait when you’re beginning to date somebody new before you get into real intimacy? I have a high sex drive and am sometimes too eager with women. I’m not pushy, just real friendly! For me, the time is always right.

— Friendly Guy, St. James

Dear Friendly Guy: If talking about a sexual timeline is annoying conversation to your date, then they probably aren’t all that attracted to you.

You’re best to confer with the woman verbally, rather than trying to nudge her towards sex without saying anything. That’s just out of line and will get you nowhere fast.

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts c/o the Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave., Winnipeg, MB, R2X 3B6.

Maureen Scurfield

Maureen Scurfield
Advice columnist

Maureen Scurfield writes the Miss Lonelyhearts advice column.

Our newsroom depends on a growing audience of readers to power our journalism. If you are not a paid reader, please consider becoming a subscriber.

Our newsroom depends on its audience of readers to power our journalism. Thank you for your support.

Report Error Submit a Tip

More Stories

‘Detrimental to the growth of female hockey in Manitoba’

Joshua Frey-Sam 7 minute read Preview

‘Detrimental to the growth of female hockey in Manitoba’

Joshua Frey-Sam 7 minute read Friday, Oct. 2, 2026

She lived the best of both worlds.

For the last three years, the 17-year-old wore a sweater for two different hockey programs — her high school team and AAA club in the Manitoba Female Hockey League — and was preparing to flourish in both colours again this winter.

Recently, however, the blue-liner was disappointed to learn she is no longer eligible to play her Grade 12 season with her school owing to a new policy imposed by Hockey Manitoba that bans players from participating in the Manitoba Women’s High School Hockey League if they are rostered on a U18 AAA team.

The rule applies to all athletes who play for both Winnipeg-based and rural AAA teams.

Read
Friday, Oct. 2, 2026

Giant Tiger decision creates giant void for desperate population

Niigaan Sinclair 5 minute read Preview

Giant Tiger decision creates giant void for desperate population

Niigaan Sinclair 5 minute read Friday, Jul. 31, 2026

A lot of Winnipeggers may shrug, but the end of Giant Tiger’s downtown store is a giant problem for many of the people living in the centre of the city.

It would have been difficult for anyone going into or passing by the Canadian discount chain’s Donald Street and Ellice Avenue location Thursday to miss the red notices posted on the store’s windows advising it will close on Nov. 7.

According to a 2024 Downtown Winnipeg BIZ report, about 18,000 people live in Winnipeg’s downtown.

More than 60,000 people work there, and some days — when there’s a big concert or the Jets play at Canada Life Centre, for example — the number of people spending time in the area increases significantly.

Read
Friday, Jul. 31, 2026

Volunteer pop-up library axed from Manitoba Youth Centre

Matthew Frank 3 minute read Preview

Volunteer pop-up library axed from Manitoba Youth Centre

Matthew Frank 3 minute read Yesterday at 2:01 AM CDT

Manitoba Corrections has cancelled a pop-up library program at the Manitoba Youth Centre, leaving inmates without librarian services and fewer options to borrow certain books.

The Prison Libraries Committee, part of the non-profit Manitoba Library Association, operated and funded the volunteer program since 2024 before it was shut down by the province last month. The group previously partnered with the province to offer the service because the facility has no dedicated library of its own.

“It is concerning that community members who are incarcerated, especially youth, are losing out on meaningful programming, access to information and rehabilitation efforts, which are offered at no cost to (Manitoba) Corrections. We urge Manitoba Justice to promote more library services and programming, not less,” said a Sept. 24 letter from the non-profit addressed to the justice minister.

Ashley Huot, chair of the Prison Libraries Committee, said she was puzzled when she received an email last month from Manitoba Corrections stating that the pop-up library was no longer needed.

Read
Yesterday at 2:01 AM CDT

Wet weather heats up feed grain availability

Laura Rance-Unger 4 minute read Preview

Wet weather heats up feed grain availability

Laura Rance-Unger 4 minute read Yesterday at 2:01 AM CDT

Other than those in another rain cloud, it’s hard to find the silver linings attached to this year’s soggy harvest.

A showery September continued to cause delays and more deterioration in both quality and yield. Plus, the costs of mitigating post-harvest losses to spoilage are rising as the delays push further into fall. It takes more heat and time to artificially dry down grain as temperatures cool.

Crops harvested in August before the weather turned warm and damp came off with good quality and average yields. But farmers in some areas, such as southwest Manitoba, had only started when the rains came. Now they are plagued with standing water and sprouting swaths of grain that might not even make feed quality.

Suffice to say crop insurance adjusters are going to be busy this fall.

Read
Yesterday at 2:01 AM CDT

Brandonmeat packer thriving on its own

Abiola Odutola 3 minute read Preview

Brandonmeat packer thriving on its own

Abiola Odutola 3 minute read Yesterday at 2:01 AM CDT

BRANDON — Canada Packers has strengthened its business and laid the foundation for future growth during its first year as an independent company, its president says.

The Brandon-based pork producer, separated from Maple Leaf Foods in October 2025, established its own leadership, strategy, systems, culture and identity while continuing operations across its hog production farms and regional hog barns in southern and eastern Manitoba.

The company’s first year was focused on building a successful standalone business while continuing to serve customers, communities and shareholders, president Dennis Organ said.

“Market conditions over the past year have been more challenging than we anticipated when we became a separate entity,” he said in an email. “Despite that, we continued to execute against our priorities, including increasing processing volumes, maintaining disciplined operations and strengthening the business.”

Read
Yesterday at 2:01 AM CDT

Norway's Ruud wins Olympic gold year after father's death

Jake Seiner, The Associated Press 5 minute read Preview

Norway's Ruud wins Olympic gold year after father's death

Jake Seiner, The Associated Press 5 minute read Wednesday, Feb. 9, 2022

The decorated alpine athlete was disqualified from her first two races in Beijing, but still has plenty of events to come.

Read
Wednesday, Feb. 9, 2022