Steadfastly nudist mom may not be best roomie

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DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: The other weekend I invited friends to stay at our house with their children. My live-in mother — a nudist/naturist from way back — made her morning bare-bottom trip down the hall to the bathroom. One of the kids staying over peeked out of his parents’ room and yelled, “Hey! There’s a naked lady going down the hall!” and started shrieking and giggling.

I was embarrassed for my mother. It was so uncool of her to do that with company, here. I told her to go right out and buy a robe that day!

She looked at me and said slowly, “No… You don’t get to order me around and treat me like a teenager in your house or anywhere.” Then she packed a suitcase (she doesn’t have many clothes) and waltzed out my front door to drive to her best friend’s house, who’s also a naturist. How long should I wait to call her? I know I hurt her.

— Really Missing My Mother, East Kildonan

Dear Missing Her: Call her to see how she is, but whatever you do, don’t call her to tell her to stop pouting and come back to your place! She doesn’t belong there all the time, and you have driven that point home.

Give her some space to stay with her nudist friend. Maybe your mom would be better off living there, or freely on her own. You may wind up being the one who needs a roommate to pay half the rent. This time it should be someone who’s not a nudist.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: Grandma (that’s moi!) has a “man friend” this year. I’m anything but lonely now. How do I tell the teeny-bopper grandkids their usual two-week holiday is not happening this year? I’m thinking three or four days is all the time I want to see them this summer.

— Grandma Has Other Plans, Woohoo! Manitoba

Dear Grandma: The kids are growing now, and may be tighter with their young friends this summer. They may have activities they’d prefer to do at home, and actually may not want to be away 14 whole days. Call their parents right away and reveal the romantic situation with your new guy, and suggest a shorter visit that may well suit everyone.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I’m a lesbian woman of 25, dating a young woman of 19 who’s extremely popular on social media. She has a lot of women and guys commenting on how hot she is, and they always ask if she has a boyfriend. They ask even though I’m right there in the photo with my arms around her!

She tells them flat out that we’re dating, but some guys are so bold. I wish the online stuff wasn’t a part of our lives, but she tells me to ignore it, and stresses she only loves me and says that’s all that matters. Ha! I can’t ignore it. It really puts me off that some guys feel like they have the right to say flirty things to my girlfriend. I think she likes the praise and attention. How do we make this work? I love her so much.

— Jealous and Hurting, St. James

Dear Jealous and Hurting: A “lesbian” girlfriend who’s loving the online attention from men may not be telling the whole truth about being committed to you. This woman may have loving and passionate feelings for you when you two are alone, but she’s still letting other people plead their cases online. She may not be ruling out finding someone else! Deep down you must sense that, and it’s time to call her on it to get at the real story.

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Maureen Scurfield
Advice columnist

Maureen Scurfield writes the Miss Lonelyhearts advice column.

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