Verbal sparring can generate sexual sparks

Advertisement

Advertise with us

DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I just saw my ex-wife at a political get-together recently. It was a bit shocking — she was hanging on the arm of a guy she used to say she couldn’t stand. What is this called? A love-hate relationship?

Read this article for free:

or

Already have an account? Log in here »

To continue reading, please subscribe:

Subscribe and receive a limited-edition Free Press branded hat or tote.

Digital Subscription

One year of digital access for only $205*

  • Enjoy unlimited reading on winnipegfreepress.com
  • Read the E-Edition, our digital replica newspaper
  • Access News Break, our award-winning app
  • Play interactive puzzles

*First annual payment billed as $205.00 + GST for one year. This annual subscription will automatically renew at $233.00 + GST every 52 weeks (10% off the regular annual price of $259.35). Offer available to new and qualified returning subscribers only. Cancel any time.

To continue reading, please subscribe:

Add Free Press access to your Brandon Sun subscription for only an additional

$1 for the first 4 weeks*

  • Enjoy unlimited reading on winnipegfreepress.com
  • Read the E-Edition, our digital replica newspaper
  • Access News Break, our award-winning app
  • Play interactive puzzles
Start now

*Your next Brandon Sun subscription payment will increase by $1.00 and you will be charged $17.95 plus GST for four weeks. After four weeks, your payment will increase to $24.95 plus GST every four weeks.

DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I just saw my ex-wife at a political get-together recently. It was a bit shocking — she was hanging on the arm of a guy she used to say she couldn’t stand. What is this called? A love-hate relationship?

He used to annoy her to no end. How did they end up getting together?

— Making My Head Spin, North Kildonan

Dear Making Head Spin: For some people who like a lively debate, a heated discussion is sometimes a great way to get mutually turned on. This may have been what happened with your ex-wife and her nemesis.

Alternatively, if these two are both serious cerebral types, they may just like to argue for the sake of an exciting discussion — a kind of mental exercise.

However, it’s really time for you to stop worrying about your ex-wife, who is probably too busy arguing with her new partner to even give you a second’s thought.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: My longtime boyfriend and I just got home from an out-of-town wedding. The bride and groom were so happy.

On the way home in the car my guy turned to me and said, “Well, this is it, babe. When are we going to get married? Either we do it sometime soon, or we don’t keep on seeing each other.”

I said, “What? Is that your idea of a romantic proposal someone would want to accept and cherish for the rest of their life?”

He then said, ‘It’s been almost five years now. Every time I try to ask, you shoot me down in flames.”

He’s actually right. I do love him, but I’m not sure if I’m “in love” with him.

My mother, who has been married and divorced twice, has not taught me or shown me even one good thing about marriage. She just says, “All men are the same when you get down to it.”

What do you suggest? My boyfriend is ready to hit the road for a new job in another province.

I like my work here, and I’m dragging my feet about moving away with him to a place with no job waiting for me.

Do I love him? Certainly, as a dear friend. He’s a good lover, but he doesn’t set my heart on fire. Also, he loves to pick arguments.

I’m 31, so please give me some advice.

— Not Excited to Move, West End

Dear Not Excited: It seems you’re already rolling your eyes when your poor guy talks. That’s not enough love to sustain a marriage, especially in a new province where you don’t know many people.

Never mind trying to mould this boyfriend into a loving and exciting lifelong mate, and possibly the father of your future your children. You just aren’t a strong enough pair to move off together and be happy.

To get yourself moving in a more fruitful direction once he’s gone, talk with a relationship counsellor. First off, you need to review of the partners you’ve had and get some professional feedback on your patterns. Then you can discuss what would actually excite your body and soul in a life partner.

When actively looking for a new love, you might also make a list of things you would like to explore — travel destinations, music, sports, artistic endeavours and other pursuits that would excite you.

Also consider careers a new mate might have that you would find interesting to hear about over a long period of time. This is just one of the ways a bond can remain strong.

The idea is to build an ever-expanding circle of good friends together and enjoy a varied life with someone you can easily love for many years.

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts c/o the Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave., Winnipeg, MB, R2X 3B6.

Maureen Scurfield

Maureen Scurfield
Advice columnist

Maureen Scurfield writes the Miss Lonelyhearts advice column.

Our newsroom depends on a growing audience of readers to power our journalism. If you are not a paid reader, please consider becoming a subscriber.

Our newsroom depends on its audience of readers to power our journalism. Thank you for your support.

Report Error Submit a Tip

More Stories

Girl pleads guilty to assaulting fellow student

Tessa Adamski 3 minute read Preview

Girl pleads guilty to assaulting fellow student

Tessa Adamski 3 minute read Yesterday at 2:01 AM CDT

BRANDON — A high school student who admitted to attacking another girl in the hallway says she is taking responsibility for her wrongdoing.

The 15-year-old, who can’t be named under the Youth Criminal Justice Act, pleaded guilty to assault in Brandon provincial court on Tuesday.

“I do feel terrible about what I did. I should not have done it. She’s a good person and she never deserved that,” the teen said.

On Feb. 9, the accused came up behind the girl near her locker at Vincent Massey school, pulled her hair and punched her in the head, according to an agreed statement of facts.

Read
Yesterday at 2:01 AM CDT

Woman, 23, charged with fatal stabbing outside Portage Place

Tyler Searle and Erik Pindera 4 minute read Preview

Woman, 23, charged with fatal stabbing outside Portage Place

Tyler Searle and Erik Pindera 4 minute read Updated: Yesterday at 4:42 PM CDT

A 23-year-old woman has been charged with fatally stabbing a woman after they argued outside the entrance of Portage Place mall in the middle of the afternoon Tuesday.

Police officers responded to the area on the 300 block of Portage Avenue around 2:45 p.m. where they found Helen Annie Spence, 58, suffering from severe and life-threatening injuries, said Winnipeg Police Service spokesman Const. Claude Chancy.

“There was a verbal dispute that led to a physical altercation, at which point the suspect armed herself with an edged weapon and then proceeded to stab the victim,” Chancy said, adding the alleged killer and victim knew each other.

Spence was taken to the hospital in critical condition, where she later died. Spence was a member of Misipawistik Cree Nation, which used to be called Grand Rapids First Nation, but had been living in Winnipeg recently.

Read
Updated: Yesterday at 4:42 PM CDT

Tory meddling could cost MPI millions, boost Autopac rates

Larry Kusch 9 minute read Preview

Tory meddling could cost MPI millions, boost Autopac rates

Larry Kusch 9 minute read Monday, Jun. 24, 2019

The Pallister government has directed Manitoba Public Insurance to give complete control of its future online product sales to insurance brokers, a move that could cost the corporation an extra $23 million over five years and boost Autopac rates, according to documents obtained by the Free Press.

The documents, which include emails, letters, briefing notes and presentations, show repeated interventions by the Progressive Conservative government on behalf of brokers and shed light on why the Tory-appointed MPI board of directors sought a legal opinion last year to clarify its rights and responsibilities.

The documents also reveal that the PC government directed MPI management last fall to extend the corporation's contract with brokers by two years to Feb. 28, 2021 at a remuneration rate MPI viewed as excessive.

MPI had first proposed a less generous package than the brokers had been receiving, and then offered zero per cent increases in the first two years followed by 0.75 per cent in Year 3, mimicking government policy on civil servant and Crown corporation employee pay. The brokers wound up receiving annual increases to their base $84.5 million compensation that are indexed to inflation (the Consumer Price Index, which rose 1.9 per cent in March compared to a year earlier ).

Read
Monday, Jun. 24, 2019

Each of city's historic bridges has unique story

Declan Schroeder 11 minute read Preview

Each of city's historic bridges has unique story

Declan Schroeder 11 minute read Sunday, Sep. 6, 2020

They span the muddy waters from which Winnipeg derives its name. They connect neighbourhood to neighbourhood. They’re a fundamental feature of our city.

Winnipeg has a reputation as a “River City,” but many don’t know the stories behind the bridges they use every day.

While a bridge may seem to be a boring piece of basic infrastructure, many of Winnipeg’s have fascinating histories that go back more than 100 years.

 

Read
Sunday, Sep. 6, 2020

Resilience, perseverance in pursuit of normal life

Joel Schlesinger 5 minute read Preview

Resilience, perseverance in pursuit of normal life

Joel Schlesinger 5 minute read Saturday, May. 22, 2021

Roger McNeill says not much rattled his wife Pat — but miller moths terrified her.

“With a moth in the house, she would freak out,” he says of his wife, who died Oct. 22, 2020, at age 82.

That a tiny bug riled her always struck her husband as ironic, given all she had gone through.

Pat McNeill, after all, had survived polio — a disease that had a lasting impact on her life. Consequently, as a young adult, she often wondered if she would lead a life many took for granted: getting married and raising a family.

Read
Saturday, May. 22, 2021

Shattered windows at E.K. Islamic centre result of gunfire, members of Muslim community say

Morgan Modjeski 5 minute read Preview

Shattered windows at E.K. Islamic centre result of gunfire, members of Muslim community say

Morgan Modjeski 5 minute read Updated: Yesterday at 8:17 PM CDT

Officers are investigating damage to the Rahma Islamic Centre on Watt Street Wednesday night that members of the city’s Muslim community say was a drive-by shooting in which no one was injured.

Winnipeg Police Service spokesman Const. Claude Chancy said several windows at the building located at 574 Watt St. were shattered shortly after 11:30 p.m., causing an estimated $3,000 in damage.

Chancy made no mention of shots being fired, and no suspects have been identified.

He said there had also been a report that earlier Wednesday evening, the occupants of a vehicle that drove past the centre had shouted slurs at people outside.

Read
Updated: Yesterday at 8:17 PM CDT