You two likely through after tattoo boo-boo

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This article was published 27/11/2024 (652 days ago), so information in it may no longer be current.

DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: My new girlfriend is covered with tattoos, just as I am, but unlike me, she has just graduated into the legal profession. Now that she’s started her professional career, she’s been completely hiding her amazing tattoos under her clothes — even an especially beautiful new one. So much for that secret!

We went out to a party with my friends from work, and I (the guy with the big mouth) let it slip that my girlfriend has amazing tattoos — but no one can see them but me! Yes, I’ll admit I was drinking and bragging!

People grew more curious, and the pressure rose for her to reveal at least one of the “fantastic tattoos” I’d bragged about. She dug in her heels! I foolishly suggested she might just relax and reveal one, as these were just my friends around us.

That did it! Her face fell and she looked daggers at me. She quickly booked a ride and left me behind at the party. In a phone argument with me (I was still at the party), she said she thought she could trust me with her secrets but found out she couldn’t.

So, we’re broken up now and I’m really hurting. I need her back because I’m in love with her! Yes, she is different from me, but I love that about her. What can I do?

— Need Her Back, Osborne Village

Dear Need Her: Frankly, she’s worried she can’t trust your mouth. That’s ultra-important to a person in a serious profession like the law. While she made you feel proud and completed, you made her feel nervous that you could unravel everything she’s trying to achieve.

You may need her in your life, but consider this: Aren’t you the type who wants to air all secrets and not keep anything quiet?

On a personal note, my dad was a court lawyer who got calls from guys in jail at all times of the night. My mom never talked about what she overheard to anyone but my dad. That’s the kind of mate your cautious girlfriend needs. Can you be that kind of guy?

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: My gay boyfriend kept postponing his return from a year of world travel. We ended up having a fight across the ocean. Finally, I messaged him, “Come back or else I’m gone.” All he had to say in reply was, “I’m coming back when I’m ready!”

Well, he’s back now, and I’m hating it. He brought live baggage to Canada — a new boyfriend, in the form of a ridiculous English guy.

He took the new guy to watch the Santa Claus parade. I saw them on TV and they got soaked. Ha! But this is the horrible thing about gossipy Winnipeg. I had people contacting me and saying, “Did you see your ex at the Santa Claus Parade with some guy wearing a Santa hat?” Why would I want to be made aware of their soggy little parade adventure?

My ex is never coming back to me now, and if he did, I wouldn’t have him. How can I improve my own love life, which is at rock bottom right now? I’m not young anymore and I’m not much of a party guy. And Christmas is coming whether I’m ready for it or not, and I don’t want to be all alone.

— Early Christmas Blues, Winnipeg

Dear Christmas Blues: Here’s a survival tip for this difficult season: Give yourself a holiday present of new friends and great resources. Contact the Rainbow Resource Centre (rainbowresourcecentre.org). They offer lots of resources for older LGBTTQ+ adults, so ask about all the upcoming activities and groups, and get involved as a holiday gift to yourself!

There are lots of welcoming people there, plus fun projects to get involved with and new friends to be made.

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts c/o the Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave., Winnipeg, MB, R2X 3B6.

Maureen Scurfield
Advice columnist

Maureen Scurfield writes the Miss Lonelyhearts advice column.

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