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This article was published 26/04/2024 (820 days ago), so information in it may no longer be current.

DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I met my new girlfriend last month at a great conference in Winnipeg. We all had too many drinks at the hotel, and she went to bed with me on the first night. Then, because she’s a “good girl,” she tried to backtrack on that, and put a silly limit on our sex play for the first month. But her sexuality — when she eventually warmed up again to it — was blazingly hot!

In the next month we had hot weekends together, a dozen dinners and many evening drives for ice cream. She also started sharing photos of us together with all her friends online and the congratulations to us as a new couple started to come in.

Two months into the relationship, she’d assumed we were together forever and shared that impression. “Not for me. Too early!” I said. Then she blew up. Now she repeats our “breakup conversation,” to everybody who’ll listen, and doesn’t speak to me anymore.

— Dumb Guy? The Maples

Dear Guy: You still care, and so does she, so listen up. You can’t keep calling halts to this freight train, if you want her for good. You have to accept this is her emotional style. If you don’t like it, then say a final goodbye now, as the collisions over misunderstandings will only get bigger.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I’m driving home tomorrow from my beloved snowbird haven in beautiful Mexico. I do not want to come home, after spending fall to spring in heaven down here. I’ve been Livin’ La Vida Loca, as the song goes. I know now I was born to be laughing in the sunshine, playing sports or going on romantic side-trips down here.

I was in heaven all season and met many new, wonderful friends. Sadly, with prices climbing, I can no longer afford the life I lead in Mexico, and here’s the craziest part: I’m a former workaholic, but l’ve recently discovered how to really relax. I’m not an obsessive worker-type anymore. So what can I do to get back to the place I love and afford to stay there?

— Broken-Hearted Snowbird, Manitoba

Dear Broken-Hearted Snowbird: The biggest mistake in thinking is that you either have to buy the whole pie or none at all! While you can no longer afford as long a period of not bringing in income, it’s going to be snowy and icy-cold again next fall in Canada.

Consider earning travel money with seasonal jobs here at home, from June to late September to support your great Mexico holidays, maybe from a bit later in autumn to a tad earlier in the spring. It could prove to be a great pattern for you, and you’d get the best weather of both countries, continually.

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts c/o the Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave., Winnipeg, MB, R2X 3B6.

Maureen Scurfield
Advice columnist

Maureen Scurfield writes the Miss Lonelyhearts advice column.

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