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DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: My husband is a Blue Bombers nut. This year we decided to purchase season tickets in a better section where “serious” fans sit. The man who’s had the seat next to me is a classy guy — and he’s not wearing a wedding ring. He comes to games with a married male friend. I haven’t had the nerve to ask him about girlfriends!

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DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: My husband is a Blue Bombers nut. This year we decided to purchase season tickets in a better section where “serious” fans sit. The man who’s had the seat next to me is a classy guy — and he’s not wearing a wedding ring. He comes to games with a married male friend. I haven’t had the nerve to ask him about girlfriends!

My husband is a man who sits there like a lump, even during exciting games. I must confess I’ve been flirting with this fun guy during all this season’s games. We both get excited and jump up for exciting plays or Bomber scores, and I live for his high-fives! He’s built like a football player and has my heart pounding for touchdowns, when he’s standing on his feet cheering like mad.

I gave him my business card recently and he gave me his during one recent game, but so far it’s just burning a hole in the side pocket of my purse. Should I call him when the season’s all over? I’m going to miss him a lot.

— Tempted, Bridgwater

Dear Missing Him: Whoa! This man doesn’t need a married woman with the hots for him calling him after the season is over. For all you know he might have a girlfriend he just hasn’t mentioned.

Don’t you realize your poor husband is probably sitting there “like a lump” because he can see and hear what’s going on beside him? Next year, let him bring someone other than you to the games, and end this needless torture.

If it’s not too late, you and your husband might try to rejuvenate your relationship this winter. Some interactive activities like curling, skiing, board games or dance lessons could possibly refresh your bond and keep you out of trouble.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I ran into an old girlfriend at a mall dental office. She wanted to chat with me while I was waiting for my 15-year-old son to get out of the dentist’s chair. I told the receptionist I’d be outside near the door.

My ex-girlfriend has a loud voice, so I suggested we sit on a bench close to the front door. She crossed her long legs, leaned back and talked my ear off.

Finally, my mouthy teenage son, who’s not a bit shy, came out of the dentist’s office, looked at her and said, “Who’s this?”

She piped up: “I used to date your dad when we were in high school!” My son gave her a look, rolled his eyes at me, and said, “I’ll wait in the car!”

When I got away from her — 10 long minutes later — I came out to the car and he said, “What’s her problem?” I just laughed and said, “What do you think of her?”

He answered: “She thinks she’s hot, and that she can dominate!” I burst out laughing. Where did he get that from? By the way, he wasn’t wrong. How does he know this kind of stuff?

— Startled Dad, River Heights

Dear Startled: Your son nailed this woman’s attitude toward you from her sitting posture and from just one saucy quip. He seems to have more interpersonal insight on flirting than you realize.

Kids his age are mining relationship and sexual info from all over the internet. In fact, many are quite adept at looking for advice for their own relationship problems, and for sexual information they don’t feel comfortable asking their parents about. Teenagers can certainly learn a lot these days, including the raunchier stuff, at a very early age.

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts c/o the Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave., Winnipeg, MB, R2X 3B6.

Maureen Scurfield

Maureen Scurfield
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Maureen Scurfield writes the Miss Lonelyhearts advice column.

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